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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like you need to either set something reasonable (100+ miles per week, if you know her friend lives 20 miles away), set up an Uber account and cover $50-100 per week, or you need to provide a metro card IF her friend is metro-accessible.  You provided a car as a perk.  Severely limiting it now would be immediately met with resentment, justifiable in my mind!

This is one of the things you have to consider BEFORE getting a new AP.  You said a previous AP racked up 300+ miles in a weekend, and I agree that’s too much.  But 50 miles is not much.  [b]If you were limited to 50 miles per week, would you be able to do it without feeling like you’re missing out on other things?[/b][/quote]

Let’s see...I didn’t actually have a car for years, and had to figure out ways to get places that didn’t involve me just grabbing the car keys. I also don’t visit my friends who live 20+ miles away on a daily basis. And now, as an adult, I pay for all of the expenses associated with driving, and would not put 50 miles/day on the car for anything other than a necessary work commute. Try the math on that at the fed reimbursement rate: $29 per trip. Let’s multiply by four: $116. Or five: $145. And now let’s take those weekly numbers and multiply by 4.3 (avg weeks per month): that gets us to $499 - $624 per month for au pair’s personal, off duty driving. [/quote]

Hi PP, are you OP?  It wasn't clear.

The AP was promised a vehicle, you weren't.  As a more mature adult with a family, of course you aren't visiting friends every day; most people in their 20s (without families) DO spend their evenings with friends.

Did she see the handbook before she got to OP's house?  Did she actually know how far 50 miles is, since she's most likely used to kilometers?  Did she know how spread out the US is compared to Europe, Southeast Asia, and many, many other places in the world?  Obviously, she didn't know that her friend would live 20 miles away.  All of those contribute to the problem of setting 50 miles as a limit.

While you may not put on 50 miles per day for anything other than a commute, others have different priorities, especially young adults.  She doesn't have a commute, doesn't know the federal mileage reimbursement rate, and her life revolves around OP's family and getting out of their house for a break.

By the way, we don't even know if the mileage is accurate, because OP didn't say that they're using a mileage book or app to track.  OP, if you're determined to stick to 50 miles per week, let her know now that EVERYONE who uses the car will be tracking mileage, and walk her through a mileage book or an app.  If you decide to go that route, you could end up with major resentment, but that's your choice.

Costs add up with APs.  Either you make peace with that, you let the next AP know that there are no transportation perks (which makes matching significantly harder), or you get out of the AP program.[/quote]

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