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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I hate to say it, but it sounds like she might be setting you up for a rematch. While I agree, there are levels of "acceptable" clutter, there seems to be a list of "acceptable reasons for rematch that will get you sent to another family but not home" and "the house is just so messy I can't stand it" seems to be on that list.

As a host family looking for a rematch candidate, wouldn't that seem like an ideal AP?  She'd be neat and clean....

Plus, it's so subjective.  How can the LCC say what is an acceptable level of clutter to make someone live with?

While I agree that having the AP make the kids clean up and finish the project if they don't is ideal, I'd start mentally preparing for the next shoe to drop - especially if she can (in her mind) trace any of the "mess" to have happened outside her shift.[/quote]

I unfortunately agree.  We have hosted over a decade and watched many of APs' friends rematch over the years.  Here are the things they complained about to get their rematches approved:

1) The house is too messy
2) There isn't enough food
3) The child hit/kicked/yelled at me

All three will make them look good in rematch and inspire pity from new families, and it's hard for an agency to argue with any of them.

Hope this is not the case here.
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4) They kept switching hours at the last minute.
5) They made me work more than 10 hours in a day/45 hours in a week.
6) They made me take care of the pets, plants, garden, lawn, housekeeping (etc).

Yep, if true, they’re valid reasons to rematch.  However, it’s hard for an LCC to know it’s true, if the family says it didn’t happen.  Because those are serious breaches of the rules, they usually err on the side of the AP’s story, and if the same thing comes up again, the family may be barred from getting another AP.  In cases where the AP is reporting the truth, the second AP walks into a shitstorm.  In your case, it means that the AP may rematch, but you won’t be barred from the program unless it happens again.[/quote]

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