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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]but it is barely a break as she can’t go enjoy herself at a museum or do something fun, she basically has to go wait to pick up the kids. [/quote]

AP is off from 8.30 am to 12.45 pm. That is a 4+ hour break!
Four hours is enough time to take a class, go to the gym, go shopping, meet friends for coffee, go for a walk or do a dozen other "fun" activities (reading, arts and crafts, netflix, scrapbooking...), I wish I got a four hour break during or after work.

[quote=Anonymous]Yet at the same time, the person I am paying to help is sleeping at a time when her help (if it was actual help) would be part of the reason why we got an AP. Should I just leave it or is it worth the battle?[/quote]

OP, this is definitely worth the battle.
You hired her to work 6.30 to 8.30 am and 12.45 to 6.30 pm. You are well within the limits for hours, the hours you are asking for are not ridiculous (not as if she needs to be up at 4 am to take one of the kids to swim practice), what you are asking for is totally reasonable for a family with school-aged children and your AP does get a meaningful break during the day. I agree that the hours are not ideal for a night owl but your AP agreed to those hours when she chose your family and now she has to deal with it. So either she fakes it in the the mornings (and goes back to bed as soon as the kids are at school) or she needs to find a family that only needs after-school care and not morning hours or you change her hours and do the morning routine yourself. But as long as she is scheduled to work 6.30 to 8.30 she has to be up and ready to work at 6.30. Period.
(Also, if she rather watches the oven cook dinner instead of spending time with the kids... she is not adequate. She is doing just as much as she has to. And with skipping morning hours to sleep? She is doing even less than that.)

Think about it, she is sleeping at a time she is supposed to work. What would your boss do if you decided to nap from 10 to 12 instead of doing your job? I doubt they'd tell you they were fine with you being a night owl and to just go ahead and go back to sleep... same is true for your AP. While she might not be an 'employee' she did come to do a job. All adult night owls either need to fake it at work or find a job that suits their bio rythm.

You need a reset conversation. Or a rematch. But that's on you.[/quote]

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