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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you have an Au Pair you like, who is doing her job well, got home late but was still on time for the job and in a good mood so wasn't affected by the lack of sleep and you still feel upset? I think you need to pick your battles, OP. [/quote]

Our AP doesn't have a curfew (neither did I, back in the day, when I was an AP myself, half a lifetime ago) but they know that not having a curfew is a privilege. As long as they are able to come home quiety without waking anyone and without letting the cat out, as long as they are able to be on time and in a good mood (real or pretend, I don't care) the following morning, as long as they are able to do their job on four hours of sleep... we don't mind them coming home late. If them staying out until the early hours affects their mood or how they do their job? We will implement a curfew. 
They know we appreciate them coming home eight hours before they start working, just so that they have a chance to catch the sleep they will need to be in good shape the following day (plus I tend to worry and not sleep well when they are not at home) but it's not a curfew and if they do well on six hours of sleep, great. (I know I couldn't but I am old and simply don't have the same level of energy I had when I was in my 20s)

So far none of our APs has abused that (lack of a) rule. Yes, some came home quite late (or should I say "early"?) a few times, especially in summer. One loved going to the movies and didn't usually come home before midnight when she did and who am I to stop her from that? It takes her 45 minutes to get home from the movie theater, it's not her fault the movie doesn't start until 8.30 pm / 9 pm... no drinking, no smoking, always on time the next morning, always in a pleasant mood - fine with me! One made great (local) friends and was invited to BBQs that started late-ish and ran even later... we didn't see a reason to tell her she had to leave by 9 pm so that she'd be home by 10 pm. She was usually home by midnight and again, very pleasant the following day. [/quote]

Agree with you however no curfew is not a privilege. Privilege is a dedicated car. Privilege is going on vacation with the family. But having no curfew is simply not having stupid rule for another adult. [/quote]

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