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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, I tend to agree that you need to detach and let go.  Use the same skills you use with your charge when she tantrums.  ;)

Basically, this is not about you.  You know it and she knows is and honestly the preschool teachers probably know it too.  For whatever reason reality is not comfortable for her on this one.  Engaging serves no real purpose.  It will make her deal with an uncomfortable truth without fixing much of anything.

The closest I would come is to address it in the moment by feigning genuine concern:
MB: “Oh you always spoil her!”
Nanny: “Is that really something you are concerned about?  What rules do you feel I am not successfully enforcing?”[/quote]

BTDT.  I said “ I am?  I wasn’t aware.  Can you give me a few examples so that I can correct it, please?”  Of course, the examples she gave were things the parents were doing, so I asked when I had done those things, but I didn’t remember doing them.  Nothing changed in their behavior with the child, but at least I was no longer blamed.[/quote]

Okay, so you know she is being irrational.  You can either try to force her to live in reality (she is in denial and will fight it all the way), or shrug and accept thay she is not rational, or quit and find someone with a better grasp on reality.  If she is not irrational in most areas, I would just accept this as her weak spot.  Everybody has some flaw.[/quote]

Pp here.  I have no problem accepting parent behavior that I know I can’t change.  I won’t be blamed for their issues, as I illustrated.[/quote]

Okay, so this particular form of irrational behavior does not work for you.  I wish you luck on your job hunt.[/quote]

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