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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] Is there ever an instance where we can consider that our former nanny is now truly a friend and therefore we wouldn't treat her like an employee anymore? As a comparison, we've had visiting friends come over before and insist that they wanted to watch our son so we could have a few hours outside the house. We made sure there was plenty of food available for them, were gone just long enough to see a movie, and of course were profuse in our thanks, but we didn't pay them. If our former nanny initiates the visit, would that be a similar situation?

And of course I can just ask her, but I also don't want to insult her if this is a ridiculous question. [/quote]

If she is free to leave then it's a visit. If she isn't, she's working. So if you decide to go to a movie and it's fine if she takes off, then sure, don't pay her. I'm assuming that isn't the case though. If you're going out and she's spending her time with your child, she gets paid. If you decide to stay home and you sit and have coffee with her, then it's a visit. If she comes to your child's birthday party and you don't expect her to watch the kids or clean the kitchen afterward, then it can be a visit.

The last family I worked for didn't seem to understand this. I'm in a competitive grad school program and work full time in my field. I still wanted to see their child, but I absolutely do not have time (or any desire) to work as a nanny again. I would love to come by for an hour and play with their child and chat a little and then be on my way. However, there is no way in hell that I would consider sitting in someone else's house at night to get home in the dark and the cold after working all day. No way would I devote my only work-free day of the week to catering to the whims of a small child. The difference is the ability to come and go on a whim. If your friend dropped in, would you run out the door to go do something else and leave them with your child? Probably not. If you really saw them as a friend and not an employee, you would want to actually talk to them and not expect them to fall back into their old routine but for free. We all love the kids we work with, but taking care of a small child is work, no matter how special their bond was.[/quote]
Read the post PP.. they went to movie leaving child home with friends. Its fine if you want to spend just an hour socializing with parents and child but just because you don't do something doesn't make it wrong. 
To answer, yes depends if you are spending time with your friends and once in a while leave child with them when they insist then its totally fine and you are not expected to pay, same goes for former nanny.[/quote]

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