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[quote=Anonymous]Is she a good Au Pair?  Responsible?  Mature?

Our philosophy is if AP behaves like an adult, we treat her like an adult.

Our first AP was extremely immature (although she was responsible, took good care of the kids) and expected that we treat her like one of our children (in terms of cooking for her, arranging things for her, etc.)  There is no way I would have trusted her to have a guest come stay.

We also have a no sleepover rule and have an "ask us before inviting friends to stay" rule.  One AP had her sister stay for 2 weeks but she was very responsible and mature and she and the sister made us meals and generally she was a great guest.

Current AP met a boyfriend here in America and has asked to have him stay over on a number of occasions when they are going to be out late (he lives 45 minutes from our house).  I have said yes to this because again, she is mature.  I think of her as an adult and adults have "sleepovers" with their boyfriends.

It sounds like she is probably NOT that mature if she's just assuming 9 days is ok.  My good/mature APs in the past would never assume that would be ok.  They might ASK and I would say it was ok...  but I never would have allowed it with the first one.  She would have just expected we look after her guest as she expected we look after her....[/quote]

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