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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It should be a cultural experience for both of you and you are making it one sided.  She is not your child so a family dinner should be her choice, not yours.  Its nice to invite her but it should not be forced nor should she be forced to try new things like your toddler. You saying you are a very good cook is subjective as if it does meet her tastes, she may feel differently.  Why can't she cook for herself with her food preferences?  How would you feel to be forced to eat food unfamiliar to you every night that is very different from your normal?[/quote]

We are very clear during matching that attendance at family dinner and trying new food is mandatory. This is the best we can do to lay out expectations in advance. If she really felt “forced,” she should not have matched with us. She also has the option of trying something and actually saying she doesn’t like it, then getting something else later. She has not chosen to do this yet.

Food is a single aspect of cultural exchange, so saying our relationship is one sided is judgmental. [/quote]

She is not your child and should not be forced to try new things.  She probably doesn't like your cooking.  If you want her to try your foods, you should be equally open to trying hers.  It goes both ways in terms of a cultural exchange.  Your family diner should include your spouse and kids.  Her joining you is optional.  She is your au pair, not your child.[/quote]

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