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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I were the nanny, I would probably insist on a promise of some re-relocation expenses if it doesn't work out in less than a year, too.

OP, why is she willing to move?[/quote]

This is great insight. We'll cover that in the agreement. Totally. 
She's willing to move, presumably, bc she likes the job and she likes us. She has said as much to our faces...unless she was just being nice. Guess we'll find out soon![/quote]

Whoa!  Please don’t assume that if she isn’t willing to move to a new area then she lied about liking you as a family!  My goodness, I hope that was a joke.  I love my current nanny family but I have roots in this area and other irons in the fire, so to speak, it would be very hard to leave.  I am a grown-up; I can’t just skip town because my friend is moving!

That said, I want to point out that there are benefits to having a new nanny in your new city.

First, moving with the nanny will absolutely change the dynamic of your relationship.  It could be for the better, but it could go the other way too—imagine every time she is annoyed with you her thinking, “I can’t believe you would do XYZ after I moved for you!” Or “I can’t live like this for another two years!”  Nannying is an emotionally fraught job, live-in nannying even more so.  Moving to a new city together ratchets that up even further.  Think hard about the emotional maturity of your nanny.  Many live ins are young and relatively inexperienced, and you said you have a baby.  If she has been working with you under a year, you are still in the honeymoon period in many ways.

On the flip side, before you know it your baby will be a toddler.  Having a nanny who is familiar with your new city will mean that your child has access to playdates through nanny’s social network and your nanny can give guidance on outings, classes, preschools, etc. as those things become relevant.

It might be that your nanny is excited to move and all goes smoothly, but I wanted to offer some things to think about before you extend the offer.[/quote]

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