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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend has a nanny (we'll call her Nancy), and she is always saying how wonderful her nanny is. I work part time, and have a nanny when I am at work. My own nanny tells me that Nancy is known around the neighborhood for doing some not-so-great stuff, like going on long walks for fitness each day with the toddler strapped in the stroller, spreading some salacious gossip about other nannies/moms, refusing to take the toddler to any local activities unless she can meet up with her one nanny friend there, etc. On my days at home I've observed this nanny texting for 10 minutes at the park while the toddler was strapped in the stroller and crying, walking very far from the house with the toddler in the stroller (presumably for fitness), and taking a harsh/exasperated tone with the child (not completely out of line, but just sterner than necessary - the nanny is Eastern European and it may be a cultural difference).

I don't want to stress my friend out or damage our friendship. But I hate to see her daughter crying in the stroller around our neighborhood during these long walks and at the park. Does any of this rise to the level of mentioning to my friend, or no? If you do think I should mention it to her, how do you think I should go about doing it?[/quote]

She is "refusing" to take the toddler to any local activities unless she can meet up with her one nanny friend there?  Who cares?  I want my nanny to be happy, and forcing her to do things she doesn't want to do isn't going to accomplish that.  If the child is being chained in a basement during the day instead of ever being allowed to breathe fresh air, that's a problem.  If my nanny decides not to go to the park one day because no one else will be there?  Not a problem.  My nanny also walks for fitness and my kids are strapped in because that's what you do when kids are in a stroller.  My kids love the walks and so do the dogs so everyone wins.  If it was 98 degrees and my kids came home sunburned I'd be upset.  Otherwise, why is this an issue?  As for the gossip, telling someone that someone else is spreading rumors is just as bad as starting them.  Leave that alone.  If you've only seen the nanny texting one time while the kid was crying, I'd also let it go.  You have no idea what she was texting about, and I sincerely doubt it was actually 10 minutes.  Honestly, this post seems to say a lot about you and less about the nanny.  Unless there are some actual concerns that the child is being harmed, you need to mind your own business.  And maybe talk to someone about why you're so hung up on this nanny.[/quote]

You care more about your nanny "being happy" than whether your child is confined to a stroller for a multi-mile walks for your nanny's fitness, or whether your child is taken to activities that make sense for them versus those that allow the nanny to meet up with her friend? I think you're the one who needs therapy - to figure out why you love your nanny more than your kids.[/quote]

Do you have reading comprehension issues?  My guess is that the last two posts were also authored by you since they all say the same thing and show the same low level of understanding.  Why are you using the word "confined" like it means that a child is zip-tied to a stroller with no breathing room?  I strap my kids in to their stroller because IT'S SAFE.  Are they confined?  Yes, technically.  Am I concerned for their well-being during this time.  Nope.  And where did I say that I value my nanny's happiness over my child's well-being?  Oh, that's right, I DIDN'T.  I said that it was important to me to consider my nanny's feelings, and it didn't seem to do anyone any good if she was miserable lugging my kid activities that I had somehow deemed crucial for their development.  You do realize there are about a billion ways you could entertain and education a child without going to a specific activity, right?  Actually, you sound like you probably don't.[/quote]

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