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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP — good for you![b] Take that opportunity to further your career, so that eventually you have $ for your child and a happy mother![/b] PP, she is thinking what’s best for her child, that’s why she is here thinking through options.

OP - Au pairs are limited to 10 hr/day max, but we were able to schedule Au Pair plus grandma to cover like 3-4 occasional overnights that we needed. Looking into a student-turned “live-in childcare” is also an option, but I’d be a bit more concerned with social aspect. The other option is to see if a part time live-in nanny is an option — a nanny that works for another family, but will live with you. Or, maybe just hire a part time babysitter, who has flexibility to come and do overnights as needed. [/quote]

She said her old job was boring and the new one "has the potential" to open a lot of doors. So, might and might not. She is also partnered to a man who is not around much, bio-dad is not in the picture, and grandparents are not available. In this case, mom has been the only constant in this kid's life, and now mom needs to spread her wings NOW.

Sure, a happy mom with lots of money is a great thing. If her tween daughter still gives a sh** about her absentee mom two years from now, that would be great, too.

This works if a family has a lot of money to do the best thing -- one stable nanny, plenty of visits with mom, who isn't at all stressed out by money or domestic needs, maybe a great boarding school. But OP's description sounded like she's envisioning some kind of patchwork of care to cover her daughter's physical needs.

I am also judging this woman. It sucks for her that she doesn't truly have a parenting partner with whom she could make decisions about who stays and who goes, but she doesn't. Instead, her choice is apparently between lamenting her boring life and being a depressed drag around her daughter, or loving her life and barely seeing her daughter (who also barely sees the rest of her family).[/quote]

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