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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I always feel bad when I have to say no, too.  yes, you can always decline the extra hours but I would try to accommodate my employers as much as possible.  It doesn't matter why - her sleeping is not your business - you can say yes or no but I wouldn't, as a rule, say no all the time.

With a new job you want to build as much goodwill as possible.  Hopefully they are the kind of employers who appreciate it.  I have disorganized employers as well but over the last three years, on top of a good salary, they have also picked up my healthcare insurance 100% and just got me a new car to drive their child as well as for my personal use.  [/quote]

Op here. Congrats on your new car! Don’t get me wrong My employers are nice to me and pay me well. However, I feel that always saying yes can be a bad thing because it makes them think that you’re available whenever they need you. That’s probably why she was caught off guard when I said no. I think the rule of “say no sometimes” will be with me from now on. That way they know I can’t always be available, but can accommodate at times. [/quote]

Sure, you can say no, and technically it's not your concern why she sleeps in the morning, but would it make a difference to you if the baby kept her up at night or if she were ill or up late making up for the work she couldn't get done the previous day?  An occasional "no," or even consistently refusing if it's outside your contract is certainly your prerogative, but if their real needs are for a nanny who works longer hours and they can afford it, there is a now a mismatch with what you are willing to work.  If that's long-term, they will need to find someone new. [/quote]

The only reason she sleeps in is because the baby always keeps her up at night. She has gotten sick maybe once. She never works at night before bed or so she says. I know needs are real and I get it I really do, but most of the time she doesn’t know how to plan correctly and use her time wisely. [/quote]

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