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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am the PP with the son and kindle.

My son IS old enough to empty his lunch box and grab his own kindle and it is part of his chores. Dynamically they visit their dad in another house 2-3 days a week without both and return late at night. Since that is the case, and the AP returns home without said kid but with the items in question, I have asked her to bring them in from her car to have the kid retrieve them (the kindle to upstairs and the lunchbox cold packs to the freezer). She still doesn’t. She leaves them in her locked car. So then, we have to find keys to unlock and grab the stuff, or wait until she arrives home later that night from being out vs if she had just taken them out in the first place.

The nights / days they don’t visit dad, they do empty the lunchbox but the kindle is almost always forgotten.

I resent it the comment that I treat my AP as a slave or the like. This is her job and I have asked her to help and she has said yes, so I don’t think I am asking for a big reach here. Just a little help.[/quote]

PP who questioned why a child old enough for a kindle wasn't responsible for it.

So, I completely agree with AP bringing things in when your child is with the other parent.  However, if you make your child have a logical consequence, you child will learn to be more responsible when not with the other parent.  Personally, I would  suggest that if the Kindle doesn't come in WITH the child, child can do without, but only when the child was supposed to be responsible for it.

I would also start with a checklist for AP, and if that doesn't work, impose a consequence.  If she's going to take a car with kids' things in it, she needs to learn to find other transportation, because inconveniencing the household doesn't work.  Or she needs to go out to her car (at whatever time it's discovered) because her shift isn't over until the work is done, and she had plenty of time earlier to bring things in.

Good luck![/quote]

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