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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nanny here. I honestly would lay it all out. Nanny, I don’t mind if you smoke but I do mind if you smell like smoke around my child. Third hand smoke is the most dangerous (share what you’ve found out in research). If you’re open to it, I would share (if you haven’t already) that your parents died of cancer.

Let nanny know you really appreciate her and you are not judging her. However, this is a dealbreaker for you and if she’s not willing to change her clothes and wash her hands (which is reasonable) when entering the home, we have to part ways. I don’t think anyone would judge you if you keep her but if you decide to let it go, you can’t bring up her smelling like smoke anymore. As a nanny, if I smoked and my employer was willing to work with me, I would do what I can. And if my employer said “if this doesn’t work for you, I have to let you go” if I really loved (even liked) my job, I would make those changes right away! Good Luck! [/quote]

+1. I still think there is still the possibility that she is living with a smoker that she doesn't want you to know about. [/quote]

Don’t those nanny agencies ask on the application if you smoke? If she was a heavy smoker, Op would smell it everyday. If it isn’t as strong, chances are it’s someone around her smoking but if the agency said “they’ve had these complaints before” why doesn’t nanny just say what it is?! Clearly Op, knows and if she didn’t like you and didn’t want it to work, she would have been let you go. [/quote]

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