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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are getting advice on how to best handle this but you seem to be fishing for some which allows you to keep quiet in order to continue working. That advice doesn’t exist so just do what you’ve been doing. [/quote]

It is not about me continuing to work for them - believe me - it is about my charge getting in trouble for telling me and the icy reception I got the last time which tells me that my employer does not want me telling her things like this.

I am looking for - directly asking for - more ways I can help my charge.  More things I can say - how I can reassure her.[/quote]

As you have known her since birth, the little girl is lucky to have you as another loving adult to find comfort with. Since she is projecting onto the doll, maybe you could role  play with parent dolls and a child doll.  Not a big argument that she might repeat to her parents, but just the parent dolls telling the child doll that they still love her, that she'll always be safe, etc.

As long as the parents are not abusing the child (no mention of that at all), I don't see where there is anything to report to anybody. Marital difficulties/divorce sucks for kids, but it's not usually a cause for social services to intervene.

Are there grandparents or other observant family members nearby who might be in a better position to address this with the girl's parents?  I still wouldn't take it on yourself since you'e seen where that led before.  Don't get yourself fired because then you're out a job and the child would be worse off. [/quote]

I am the PP  Who suggested contacting CPS. The child is reenacting violence with her toys. That means that  there is a good chance that the child is witnessing violence in her home. Witnessing one parent act violently towards another or towards the dog or towards a non-family member is still reason enough to get CPS involved, but if this is continuing to go on there is a good chance that the child will also be in physical danger from the violent parent. The fact that the parents are insular and closed-off  to the point where they have punished the child for telling an outsider about her fears tell me that this may be a lot worse than anyone realizes. Telling CPS is not magically going to take the child away immediately, but it is going to give people who have experience in evaluating risk to children a heads up. Again, your responsibility is to keep this child safe.[/quote]

Kids will act out conflict with terms and actions that they know - a verbal argument can be acted out as pushing or hitting.  OP has no reason to think that the parents are hitting each other!  It is just the actions a little kid understands because that is what a kid would do rather than have a verbal argument.  [/quote]

Are you 100% sure that is 100% true 100% of the time?  Sure, maybe the kid is not modeling exactly what she had seen, but maybe she is.  I am not a social worker and I am not trained to delineate between abuse and just sub-optimal parenting.  When in doubt, contact CPS and let them figure it out.  Maybe they will do a home interview.  Maybe they will determine that is not warranted, but it will create a red flag and later a friend or neighbor may add another and that will call for a home visit.  Again, unless you are trained to identify abuse, you are should report to those who are.  Inserting your (untrained and unqualified) best judgement is overstepping.  This is why mandated reporters exist.[/quote]

That is really overreacting, PP.  I would never call CPS on any parent only because a child said her doll was pushing and hitting her.  [/quote]

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