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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry that you lost your job, and that this old lady was such a busybody.

But as a parent, and nanny employer, let me just share some perspective on honesty.
 
We have three young children, one long term full time nanny, one long term part time (20+) hours a week, and a couple of weekend babysitters. 
We also have many friends who are gay, and some who have gaybies, these friends are often in our home, we are totally open minded.

In September we hired a new part time sitter to work 25 hours a week with us, it's a permanent position and we pay well. 
We hired a lady we liked a lot, the kids liked her, it seemed to be going well but then she flaked at the last minute a couple of times and that was a big challenge for us as two working parents, but the excuses she gave for being absent weren't ok with us.
She said she was helping different family members with random ailments, none of which we thought was a legitimate reason to miss work. 
The poor judgment gave me pause and I googled her name, I found that she had a pretty active FB profile and that she's actually married to a woman. 
As a couple they were having some issues and that's why she wasn't coming to work.

We ended up parting ways because she wasn't taking the job seriously, but also because she wasn't honest with us. 
We are a private family, she was also a private person, but it became clear to us was that she wasn't upfront it made us question her character. 
We lost our trust in her.

Try to shake this off, of course it's disappointing but all employers have influence over who they hire. Don't take it personally.

You pointing out that your former nanny was married to a woman means what? How exactly did you find out her and her wife, were having martial issues? And was she staying home on these days or did she actually go and help other families? The only reason you should have lost trust in your nanny was because she was not reporting to work, and therefore, that’s the reason you let her go.

People are cruel, and I’m sure, this is no suprrise to anyone. Op, I’m sorry you went through this. If you’re open to it, you can disclose that information with perspective employer(s), however, you do not have to- it’s no ones business. Your religion, ethnicity, sexual preference etc. has nothing to do with how you perform on a job, education and experience. Just like NF doesn’t want you to disclose any information about their family (i.e. address, occupation etc) the employee should have the same right to not disclose any information about their personal life (outside of required info for background checks) or their spouses. I do udestamd too, that people try to be polite, and that’s what it sounds like your we’re doing, but granny would have got “my fiancé is in real estate. Come on Johnny, let’s go color.” Any more questions, I would have nicely said “I really don’t like to discuss my personal life, I hope you can understand Mrs. Mary.”

I hope you don’t ever experience that again. If you do decide to share that information during an interview, you can inform them that you decided to share this information because of your previous place of employment. Share you story and let them know that it hurt and you wanted to give a family the option (whether they want to hire you because of your sexuality) before you build a bond with their children, to only be ripped away with no notice or goodbye to the children. I think any family open, non judge mental family would really appreciate you being open, but again, it’s no ones business.

Good Luck!

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