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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry that you lost your job, and that this old lady was such a busybody.

But as a parent, and nanny employer, let me just share some perspective on honesty.
 
We have three young children, one long term full time nanny, one long term part time (20+) hours a week, and a couple of weekend babysitters. 
We also have many friends who are gay, and some who have gaybies, these friends are often in our home, we are totally open minded.

In September we hired a new part time sitter to work 25 hours a week with us, it's a permanent position and we pay well. 
We hired a lady we liked a lot, the kids liked her, it seemed to be going well but then she flaked at the last minute a couple of times and that was a big challenge for us as two working parents, but the excuses she gave for being absent weren't ok with us.
She said she was helping different family members with random ailments, none of which we thought was a legitimate reason to miss work. 
The poor judgment gave me pause and I googled her name, I found that she had a pretty active FB profile and that she's actually married to a woman. 
As a couple they were having some issues and that's why she wasn't coming to work.

We ended up parting ways because she wasn't taking the job seriously, but also because she wasn't honest with us. 
We are a private family, she was also a private person, but it became clear to us was that she wasn't upfront it made us question her character. 
We lost our trust in her.

Try to shake this off, of course it's disappointing but all employers have influence over who they hire. Don't take it personally.

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It's worth noting that OP's situation is quite different, because she *was* honest--there was no deception. What happened in your case was certainly problematic and frustrating and your response was very reasonable. But none of that happened in OP's case; she did take the job seriously, was honest (that's the crux of the issue!) and gave the family no reason to question her character or not to trust her. Totally different scenario.

OP, I'm sorry that happened, and wish there were protections for you and others in your shoes the way there are at larger businesses. I agree that, ridiculous as it is, you might want to come out in the interview to avoid having to go through this again. :([/quote]

OR - yes to be clear I was only making the reference to the lack of transparency upfront, and then the subsequent dishonesty as a result. 
Our former Babysitter has a poor work ethic and had been dishonest about a lot of stuff. 
But I also think I’d prefer an employee who I’m going to trust with my kids to be upfront with me [/quote]

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