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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again.

I’m getting mixed suggestions.

Either tell people in the interview (which seems odd to me) or do everything in my power to hide it.[/quote]

The only thing you have to do is accept the reality of bigotry and the possibility that this could happen again. How you navigate that going forward is up to you and your preferences. You could continue to be a very private person and say nothing and hope this never happens again, you could talk about it up front (or even mention your family in your profile that parents read -- "I live with my fiancee, Beth, and our two dogs, Rex and Rover"), you could make sure to never tell and even tell lies to keep people from finding out, you could ask your own questions in the interview to determine how the family is likely to feel about a gay nanny, or you could bring it up a little later in the game.

I will say that if I had a nanny candidate who wouldn't talk about her private life at all, I would find that strange. It would be off-putting, and we probably wouldn't match. I don't need to know every little detail about your life, but our nannies have all talked about husbands/kids/parents/pets/etc. as a natural part of conversation.[/quote]

Why do expect your nanny to share her personal and/or sex life with you?  Is this something you routinely share with your office.?  I find this strange.

OP has every right to keep her personal life personal.[/quote]

Umm ... yes. I routinely share information about my home life in my office. People know I'm married, have kids, live about a half-hour from work ... Those who I talk to more often know I have cats and parents in Alabama. Talking about your family is a time-honored ice-breaker. BTW, what does any of this have to do with anyone's sex life?

I fully accept that some people may have good reason not to talk about their family or living situation. But clear deflections of all those sorts of normal questions from someone who is going to be intimately involved in my family life would make me steer clear. She's not going to tell me why she won't tell me, or she would just tell me. And I want someone who is comfortable talking to us.[/quote]

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