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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay as an MB here I see where you're coming from.  Just to provide another perspective though, they are her kids.  She's probably tired, hormonal and maybe feeling some level of guilt at not being able to give the kids as much attention since the baby came.  If she wants to hang out with them in the am or over lunch for a short period of time, what's the harm?  At the end of the day she is their parent.  I understand it's inconvenient and I'm not trying to minimize that, but if it's for a limited time, maybe in the interest of harmony it would be worth just focusing on the fact the leave will end soon.  Don't y'all jump on me now - I'm not saying nannies should just roll over and take anything - but from a mom perspective those postpartum days are hard and a little compassion goes a long way.[/quote]

But you are basically saying that I should roll over and take it. Listen my charges have school and extracurriculars every afternoon and need to be able to rest and get there on time. All of that has been pushed back and lunch is filled with tantrums and constant redirecting. I’m having to be the bad guy all the time because things not permitted with me they want to do with her. Out right attacking each other, spilling drinks on purpose, refusing to eat, falling out on the floor when asked to wash hands, begging for anything she has.  She is always saying “They do this to us all the time. They don’t usually do this to you?” When she knows they don’t, I would’ve quit a long time ago.

It’s hard to get these kids to focus on crafts and games as it is because they now constantly want iPads, tv or to get to her. I totally get the jealousy and challenges that come with a new baby. I’ve even offered to watch the baby in case she does want to do something with one of the older ones but she turns me down and rather just be there while I do it with them.  So when I get my charges using their imaginations and involved in something and she pops in with “ hey come try these pants on” or “ have you heard about what Matt Lauer was doing!?” And immediately my charge looses interest and starts attention seeking behavior and it’s like she is oblivious to the chaos she just began. Well there goes doing anything structured for more than 5 minutes.

I’ve been extremely compassionate. She has been on leave since 12/15 and now has 6 more weeks and wants to work remotely for a while. She worked from home in her past for a small time when her office was under construction and stayed out of the way and handed them over just fine. So I know besides maybe occasionally nursing she will stay away then. [/quote]

You do realize your charges are her children, right? They aren't your children, and you aren't running a daycare or school where it's your way or the highway. She's paying for the most expensive form of child care in part because it allows her to have more control.

No one is saying you have to suck it up and take it. We are saying that if you come from a place of compassion, instead of anger and annoyance, maybe you can figure out a way to approach her that gets you both what you want.[/quote]

You have to be trolling me right now. No where did I say that it’s my way or the high way nor did I say I am angry. I made it very clear I’ve been rolling with it.  I am in fact trying to do the job she wants me to do. I have not been mean to anyone have maintained patience and my good attitude. I love my charges very much and go above and beyond but that does not give their mother the right to constantly disrupt us all day or make us late for appointments. Where is it stated that I have not come from a place of compassion? I even stated in the first post that I am venting. Nannies deserve compassion too when they spend 9-12 hours per day with kids and go along with family changes. I have been giving most of my compassion to the older ones that are having a hard time adjusting. There have been way more hugs, cozy time with me, tickles, dance parties and special field trips and I always reiterate how blessed they are to have a cute baby girl around now to protect.

Yes she is hormonal yes she has a new baby, I said I even offer to take care of the baby so she can spend some time with the older ones and she never wants to. If you think a mother is completely justified in disrupting her children’s caregiver to show her posts on Instagram and or articles in the NY times when she knows every time she tries to engage me in a conversation the kids act up YOU ARE INSANE and your advice in this thread was a waste of your time. I would never run up to someone that is reading to a child to shove my phone at them to laugh at a social media post.

I’m about to head back to the house in a few when I leave the school. I spent the morning as a visitor in my oldest charges class and read to the students. I have already emailed her that I would like to chat about routines this afternoon. Go troll your own nanny until you run her off. You entitled parents or fake posters are ridiculous.

You have threads telling nannies to be professional and keep the kids engaged then crazy people  coming in here defending this unprofessional behavior just to be harsh.[/quote]

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