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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay as an MB here I see where you're coming from.  Just to provide another perspective though, they are her kids.  She's probably tired, hormonal and maybe feeling some level of guilt at not being able to give the kids as much attention since the baby came.  If she wants to hang out with them in the am or over lunch for a short period of time, what's the harm?  At the end of the day she is their parent.  I understand it's inconvenient and I'm not trying to minimize that, but if it's for a limited time, maybe in the interest of harmony it would be worth just focusing on the fact the leave will end soon.  Don't y'all jump on me now - I'm not saying nannies should just roll over and take anything - but from a mom perspective those postpartum days are hard and a little compassion goes a long way.[/quote]

But you are basically saying that I should roll over and take it. Listen my charges have school and extracurriculars every afternoon and need to be able to rest and get there on time. All of that has been pushed back and lunch is filled with tantrums and constant redirecting. I’m having to be the bad guy all the time because things not permitted with me they want to do with her. Out right attacking each other, spilling drinks on purpose, refusing to eat, falling out on the floor when asked to wash hands, begging for anything she has.  She is always saying “They do this to us all the time. They don’t usually do this to you?” When she knows they don’t, I would’ve quit a long time ago.

It’s hard to get these kids to focus on crafts and games as it is because they now constantly want iPads, tv or to get to her. I totally get the jealousy and challenges that come with a new baby. I’ve even offered to watch the baby in case she does want to do something with one of the older ones but she turns me down and rather just be there while I do it with them.  So when I get my charges using their imaginations and involved in something and she pops in with “ hey come try these pants on” or “ have you heard about what Matt Lauer was doing!?” And immediately my charge looses interest and starts attention seeking behavior and it’s like she is oblivious to the chaos she just began. Well there goes doing anything structured for more than 5 minutes.

I’ve been extremely compassionate. She has been on leave since 12/15 and now has 6 more weeks and wants to work remotely for a while. She worked from home in her past for a small time when her office was under construction and stayed out of the way and handed them over just fine. So I know besides maybe occasionally nursing she will stay away then. [/quote]

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