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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We did extended nursing.  While it might not have looked like it to an outsider, by 2.5 there were definitely firm limits.   By 2.5, Dd could easily handle the days I was away.   We also actively worked to transition Dd from the with mom or dad all the time stage to the preschool stage.   We set limits on nursing times and signed her up for activities where parents were observers, not participants.   Now that I have an almost 9yo, I can say that early attachment worked at raising a kid who knows she has a safe home base, but loves venturing out into the world with nary a glance back.

If you didn’t have a good gut feeling about the family, then pass.  However, if it occurs again and your spidey senses don’t tingle, I wouldn’t write off the family just for extended nursing.  [/quote]

This is a different situation, PP.  I did extended nursing as well but, like you, had limits.  This child has been with her mother for 2.5 years and is nursing on demand.  To have a 2.5 yr old nurse twice during an hour long interview with the nanny is ridiculous and supremely unhealthy for the child.  I imagine the child was using nursing during that hour as a way to comfort herself when her mother was talking to a stranger.  Now the mother is going to leave the child for the first time for the entire day?  This nanny was smart to run from this situation.  [/quote]

Agreed.  Extended nursing and attachment parenting are perfectly fine and healthy if you as a family commit to that choice and are mindful of the drawbacks, including that it will take time and effort to transfer child’s bond to a new tertiary attachment figure/caregiver if they have only had their primary and secondary attachment figures.[/quote]

I agree with the last two posters 100%.  And I am glad that OP passed on this position - I, too, would see this as a huge red flag.  [/quote]

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