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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MB here and I agree it's not necessarily a caste thing.  Some moms would prefer not to hang out with nannies, but plenty are okay with it.  One of our playdates includes a couple nannies and another of my mom friends' best "mom friend" is a nanny.  Not all MBs are snobs about nannies.

I do agree with PPs that it's probably the dynamic of you as teacher and your group as a class as well as your and your charge's ages that discourage reciprocation.  I host a class at my home and even though someone else teaches, it's a lot of work for me to host, as you well know.  I don't expect reciprocation as most people don't have the space to host playdates, but we also get very little acknowledgment.  I don't think these moms are jerks, they probably just never thought about it.   Given the age of your charge, playdates are just as much about the moms/nannies hanging out as it is the kids and you are significantly older than the moms in the group.  Once your charge is older and making her own friends, your age won't matter so much.

Last thing [b]I'll say is that I think it's a little weird that you undertook the workload of leading a weekly educational playgroup for such a large group of kids considering you're not even friends with the other moms.[/b]  I'm a SAHM and only ever invite moms I'm friends with and 1-2 tops to do the kind of stuff you are talking about.[/quote]

OP here.  I do it for MY CHARGE.  At every preschool interview her parents have been at so far this year, the question of classes and playgroups always comes up.  And the administrators are very impressed with our organized playgroup.  Again, I am 60 years old with a rich and wonderful social life - I am not facilitating the play group to make friends.

I just want my charge to get more experience playing at other children's houses - that is the only reason I want to be invited for a play date occassionaly.  [/quote]

I don't like hosting.  We have a very small house and I prefer to get out of the house and do an activity.  Maybe change your approach and offer to go to a bouncy or other child friendly place.  I'd do that but I'm not inclined to have people over regularly as then I have to scrub the house and be prepared.[/quote]

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