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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Having cameras inside the house for the purpose of monitoring the AP is starting the relationship on the wrong foot - already mistrusting the AP before there is any reason to.  That's not a good attitude.

I think it is valid to have exterior cameras to monitor the OUTSIDE of the house as part of a house security system, which would tell who comes and goes or loiter outside the house doing suspicious things, regardless if anyone (you, DH, AP, anyone) is home or not.  It is actually a good way to safely check who is at the door without opening the door.

We also have a weekend home and do not have cameras inside the house.  AP had on occasion been in the house all weekend by herself.  We set very clear guidelines about visitors, guests etc. and we never had any issues.  Start with trust but clearly sit down with her to go over all of your expectations so that there is no miscommunication or misinterpretation about what you allow or not allow.  Make your rules ABSOLUTE so that there are no gray areas.  We even say in our handbook that she needs to ask every time she wants to invite someone over - even a friend who we have allowed before - we make it very clear that by allowing a particular friend to enter in the past does not been this friend is cleared to visit anytime in the future without asking again.  One time approval does not mean a lifetime approval.

[b]If you want, have a trusted neighbor go over to your house while you are away and see if anything is up, like a house party or other disruptive activities.  Take an inventory of important things or areas that AP is not allowed to be in or use, even take photos if you need to record the state of affairs before leaving and then see if anything is disturbed when you come back.  I do that the first couple of times and then stop once I feel comfortable.  I also installed locks on certain closets where we store important papers (financial and confidential) or precious things to keep it from prying eyes (not so much worry about AP, but really anyone like a house cleaner, repairman etc) to reduce chance of identity theft.   My security measures are not targeted specifically to AP.  Watching the AP, especially during off hours is crossing the line.[/b][/quote]

We all have our lines. Personally, I'd rather have a camera and look in on occasion than bug our neighbor to check up on AP, take pics like this, and install locks. [/quote]

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