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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Her hanging around all the time would bug me more than your three examples.  Honestly, I just stick to not assuming anything from AP when we are together at a social gathering with kids unless I specifically say, "I am going to the bathroom, can you watch Johnny and make sure he doesn't wander around the pool".  The pants would annoy me but I think it is putting you to the edge [b]because you are more upset about other things...like her hanging out 24/7[/b] and not up to par with former APs.  Have a discussion with her or rematch. I have learned through this process to screen for independence.  I hate the thought of AP home 24/7.[/quote]

I think you nailed in PP.

OP, your examples are somewhat annoying, but nothing that would fall into the "oblivious" category. Remember, we are talking some 18yo, who is away from home for the first time. What drives you nuts is that she is always around. Is there anything you could do to help her make friends? How about reaching out to the LCC and ask her to help. Maybe, she could put your AP in touch with someone who has been in the area for a couple of months and knows her way around. If your AP is very shy, consider inviting that other AP over for a family dinner to make the connection. What are some of the things that your prior APs enjoyed doing? Maybe there are some Meetups in the area that you could suggest? Did your former APs have AP friends with kids of similar ages? Maybe, you could put your new AP in touch with those APs? I am just brainstorming ideas. The bottom line is that you got lucky and had some mature APs, with developed social skills. And, while technically speaking this is not your job, you may want to invest some time and energy into helping your current AP connect with other folks.

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