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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are entitled to say no.  You do not need to make up reasons why, beyond the most clear and obvious.  "I'm sorry but I am not able to take on that level of 24/7 care. I'll be happy to help support whomever you find to come in and care for the kids, and I can be the emergency contact while you're away, but I cannot do the overnights.  And I have plans for dates of XXX so I am unable to work those days."

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This. Stop coming up with reasons that you think will sound more "reasonable." You aren't up to 24/7 care for any length of time. Period.

Say so, and if you can't do 16 hour days while they're gone, tell them that, too.

While you're at it, start looking for a new job. You have worked hard for this family, but you are clearly over it. Find something that you won't dread.[/quote]

MB here.  I agree with this.  You know your limits and you are allowed to be professional.  They don't own you.

If my nanny wants to go away at a time, that's in her contract.  I honor it and I find alternate care at that time.  As a reasonable employer I have a network of people who can help.

But more importantly, you don't ask people to do what they don't want to do.  If you aren't able to do overnights, don't do them.  My current nanny has a school age child and she's told us she isn't interested in overnights or travel with us.  That's fine, and I wouldn't ask her to do something she doesn't want to do.  Your family owes you that same level of respect.

I'd encourage you to start looking for a new job.  You are burnt out on this family.
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