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[quote=Anonymous][quote]My wife and I also have full time jobs. As a fed employee, I just go to work wayyyyy earlier and come home in time to enjoy fam time and make dinner for my family (mostly) every weeknight. If work needs to be done I can log on at night. I live 24 miles away from work and drive in to save an hour commute per day.

Not everyone has that flexibility.  I am a university professor and teach evening classes two evenings per week and my husband travels often for work.  Not everyone can manage the "work early to be home for family dinners every night".

So, yes, our au pair has to "heat and serve" dinner at least 2 evenings per week for the kids.  If she is broiling salmon for the kids, I ask that she just broils the entire package so there are leftovers for myself (more often than not I don't even eat it because I eat at work) and for HER the next day for lunch if she desires.  I am shocked that some view this as falling under a "cooking for the parents" rule violation. :roll: So what...our au pair drinks orange juice and drinks/eats other things that our family doesn't.  I always pick up orange juice and her other preferred staples at the grocery store.  I don't give her money and say, "oh, since those are only foods you eat, here is $ and you make a separate trip to the grocery store because I am not going to pick up your special foods while I am ALREADY in the grocery store".  :?  That is RIDICULOUS.  What a waste of time and mental energy.  I read some of the stuff on this board about tip toeing around each other, worry for breaking rules, passive/aggressive tactics, tit for tat, etc and wonder how you can live like that?  I would never survive.  Isn't some of this is common sense, living with another human being type of stuff?  I forgot about some of MY bath towels in the dryer yesterday...our au pair folded them...gasp!  She forgot about some of her clothes in the dryer last week and I folded them for her.  Its called LIVING in a house together.  If we had an au pair who couldn't strike that balance we would talk about it, and if still an issue, then go into re-match, and if still an issue, then I would high tail it to other options.  So far, the two au pairs we have had are mature young women who get this.  It is also something I discuss A LOT during the interview process and when they arrive.[/quote]

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