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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I matched about 3 weeks ago. I am the only onbe reaching out for contact. She hasn't asked anything about us the kids or details about her upcoming year.

We matched on the arrival date of 15 August. She texted me that she doesn't think that is possible because she is traveling now and won't be home in time to get a visa. I contacted my agency and they said it was possible as long as she gets an appt by a certain date. I wrote her this and she has yet to make the appointment. [/quote]

So she agreed on an arrival date of 15 August at matching and is now changing her mind?
That would be reason for cancelling a match for me. Yes. I need them to stick to their arrival date unless there is a family emergency or they get sick and therefore can't travel. If I know the new AP will join us on 15 August I plan everything around that day, including our own vacation plans.

What might be understandable is her lack of contact if she is traveling internationally. Depending on her phone plan she might not be as available as she would be if she was home (don't tell me there is free wifi everywhere... there certainly isn't... I also spent $3 per minute to call my mom when we were traveling last November, that is fine for a two-minute we arrived safe and sound phone call but not sensible for a "Hi dear HF, how are you doing?" chat). We have matched with APs who were not super tech savvy, didn't have What's App and didn't have internet at home... that can make being in touch interesting (they all did their best to contact us once a week or so though). I am going on vacation with my mother next week (girls week away) and I know that I will not be as available as DH and the kids would like (wifi in the hotel is only available in the bar area and painfully slow during the day) but it's my mother's birthday present so they will live.

The not reaching out to you... yes, it would make me worry but I can see where that could happen. Asking to move her arrival date because she is traveling? That would be a red flag for me. She should be excited for her year and to join you and she should be reliable enough to stick to a travel date you both agreed on three weeks ago. 
If you start a new job and tell them you are starting on 15 August, that's it. You don't text your future boss three weeks later "Sorry, can't start 15 August. We are traveling. I won't have time to move to [city] by then. I will start 1 September. Bye. See you." (unless the boss is your dad or you are so unique in your field that you can do whatever you want to). When she is with you, you need to know that you can trust her to start at 8 am if you tell her to, you don't want her to text you "Sorry, didn't come home until 5 am. Won't be available to work before noon. See ya." either.[/quote]

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