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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I lost my husband suddenly and continued to work - probably worked even harder as it kept my mind off my sorrow.  I actually asked my MB not to mention it.  I would collapse into tears when I got home but I was still a good nanny when I was with my charge.

Your nanny is being "young" for lack of a better word.  You need to start demanding more from her and stop being her confidante.  [/quote]

Yeah, no. OP, please don't "demand more from her" and refuse to listen to her. That will do nothing but cause her to be even more emotionally unstable. Be as caring and kind as you you would want your employer to treat you if you were in her shoes.. It's also not a bad idea to have a conversation with her about whether or not she'd like to continue working at a job that, like a PP said, leaves her alone with her thoughts all day. If she would like to take some time off, be as accommodating as you can. If she agrees that maybe a new job would be best for her, now would be a great time you lend her any resources, advice, or contacts you might have to help her on her job search. Help her out as much as you can, and I promise, when she is mentally and emotionally more stable, she will really appreciate everything you did for her. [/quote]

You haven't been through the loss of a spouse, PP - I have.  Working is the best thing she can do for herself, not coming to work and talking about her loss over and over again.  Children are very renewing and a gift in times of grief IF you throw yourself into their world.  OP should absolutely demand more from her and not less.  [/quote]

Excuse me, PP? How on earth would you know if I've been through the loss of a spouse? You really have some nerve to tell an anonymous stranger on the internet whether or not they've been through something. You have no idea the hardships I've faced, because I'm not going around announcing them loudly so that the people reading this thread will take me more seriously. Either way- everyone experiences grief differently and needs different ways of coping. Good for you that throwing yourself into your work helped you feel better. That's not going to be the case for everyone. Some need time away from everyone or a change of pace. I hope no one close to you ever goes through something like this- you don't seem like you'd be a very supportive friend. [/quote]

NP here - Have you experienced the loss of a spouse?  [/quote]

Stop responding to that PP. She trolls this board and plays "devil's advocate" in every case. She's also the one who regularly suggests hiring help for your nanny, or that you stay home and do the nanny's job because it's too hard for her.[/quote]

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