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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you just learned a lesson about why it is better to plan for your nanny year-to-year, not from birth to kindergarten. Your nanny has a life outside of her job and it may look very different than how it was when she started working for you. It's naive to assume she is planning on working for you as long as you need her.

Your nanny doesn't owe you a commitment like this, and she is sending you very clear signals that she isn't not happy with the future plan. Your current set up sounds like an absolute nightmare, something I would never agree to. Your future childcare plan sounds convoluted. It is probably stressing the nanny out that all your future childcare plans for a baby that hasn't even been conceived yet hinge on her. You need to take a step back and stop freaking out, and focus on the next year of childcare.[/quote]

You are right.  She doesn't owe me a commitment but I don't owe her one either.  [b]She has said that she wants stability, she wants to stay with one family[/b] for multiple years and likes to see them grow. She told me that she wanted to stay with my family as long as we would like her to.  The childcare plan isn't really that complicated. She would go from watching 2 kids to adapting to 3 kids (she would pick one up from preschool).  The end. I shouldn't have to put in this much effort to make EVERYONE happy in this situation.  I'm just done with it.  done. 
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You aren't offering her stability or only one family. No wonder she's unhappy.[/quote]

+1. It sounds like she is burned out on the nanny share thing and wants a single employer. Maybe she misunderstood "coming to your house to work" and thought you would be her only employer, or maybe she understood perfectly fine but has since changed her mind, but it's clear that she either doesn't want a share or she doesn't want to take care of 3 kids, even if one is in preschool for part of the day.

I know it's stressful, sorry OP. I agree with the PP who suggested scheduling a day/time to talk to her so that you can both be prepared. [/quote]

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