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There is also the fact that you seem to be acting as a go-between for her, which suggests either that her language skills aren't great, or she's not able to use technology well.[/b]
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We hired an older nanny for our 3 kids because we thought that she'd be more likely to have patience and would be more responsible.  Having said that, I strongly doubt that I would have considered any nanny who had her daughter acting as a go-between.  The candidate would have to be over-the-top amazing in every other way to make up for my concerns over that situation.[/quote]

Ma'am/Sir I replied to this statement in the previous posts I am not her "in betweener". But thanks[/quote]

But you're the one trying to troubleshoot her job search. You're the one on DCUM asking about why.

If the families are seeing your involvement in her job search in any way, it is going to be a problem. If all you are doing is sending out her resume, from an email address with her name on it, no problem. But if you are actually writing responses, responding to inquiries, asking questions, and the people on the other end know it's you and not her ... that is not a situation I would be willing to be involved with.

This is probably why she's been more successful finding jobs through prior employers in the past. Their friends and contacts know them, and so aren't worried about having two people to negotiate with, or the potential that her daughter is going to show up to help her complain about something (or decide to complain about something on behalf of her mother), or that they will always have to communicate through you. I have the same feeling about this situation that I would have if a 20-year-old applicant was using her mother's email to contact me, or her mother wanted to meet me, or somesuch. The applicant might be wonderful, but that's an additional layer of people I don't want to deal with.[/quote]

Ma'am/Sir, 
I don't how to explain for you to fully grasp that I am not an in betweener, like I stated before I send the resumes and references. Like I stated before they speak directly to her and she responds to them directly. I am on here because I can be, I am on here because I care about the well-being of my Mother and I am on here because there is nothing that I wouldn't do to figure out what could be the cause of her staying home for 2 months. Is that really a problem for you? That a daughter would like to help their Parent? For you to go on a slight tangent about how you won't deal with "additional people" is fine or maybe it is something that you have dealt with. But it does not have anything to do with the question that I asked prior. Especially if I continue to state that I am not doing any of the situations that you've stated above.

So NO, this is not "probably why she's been more successful finding jobs through prior employers in the past" when I stated she has gotten jobs through me sending out her resume/references as WELL AS prior employers.
Thank you for your input, but if you see a problem with me asking parents a question on here. Then your input is not needed.
You have a blessed day,
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