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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Last Tuesday, my au pair of 16 months (we had successfully completed the first year and we were 4 months into her 2nd year) up and left without notice. It all started a few days prior when she came home late on a Sunday night and woke up everyone in the house. I was awake and when she woke up my husband (and our 3 years old and 2 years old boys), I had sent her a text letting her know that she was late and that it should not happen again. She proceeded the next morning by confronting my husband about this as he was trying to leave to go to work. I came home that Monday and asked her to speak with me about what happened. She sent me a long text about how she no longer could work weekends because it was inconvenient for her. She wanted to spend more time with her boyfriend even though she had previously told us (on multiple occassions) that she didn't like him and that he was not her type, and she was "trying to change him." Basically, this guy is being tricked by her. She is marrying him for a green card. She is being pressured by her mother to marry him for a green card too. And she is only 20 years old (turned 20 in January). And he is oblivious--this is most likely (99% sure) his first girlfriend. He is buying her all kinds of expensive gifts like diamond necklaces, earrings, purses, concert tickets, etc.

We had, what I thought was a good discussion on Monday. We spoke about how we could improve our relationship. But, she didn't join us for dinner that day. And on Tuesday morning, she told me that she no longer wanted to be an au pair and that she wanted to leave. Then, on Tuesday evening, she left. All of her things were apparently all packed (she must have packed them during the day while she was supposed to be watching my two kids). She is now trying to stay in this country illegally--she is trying to marry this guy who she does not even like so that she could have a green card.

Just needed to vent. [/quote]

Very odd that you would dictate what time she comes home on her non working days. You also need to get a better house setup if someone coming in will wake everyone up. We have a nanny suite with a separate entrance and our nanny can come and go whenever she wants as long as her work hours aren't affected. YOU ARE WAY OVER the top. I suggest you stop micro managing aspects that are none of your business.[/quote]

Yeah, OP you should probably consider moving to a new home with a basement suite or hire a contractor to build you an addition on your current home if you want to have an AP. (note: major sarcasm).  [/quote]

Why is that sarcasm. Living in an uncomfortable situation isn't good for anyone. If you want to have a live in nanny or au-pair, you better damn well be setup for one. I didn't realize people would live in such a terrible arrangement. I guess I should advertise that in our home situation? When we built our house we made a nanny suite (20 x 20) with it's own full bath and a separate entrance. [/quote]

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