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[quote=Anonymous] I am also a nanny and I am absolutely flabbergasted at all of these replies. This is totally unprofessional and unacceptable behavior.  The poster says that she acts this way because her bosses are late every night and therefore she feels entitled to essentially be a bitch to them: do you not understand that that is incredibly passive aggressive very unproductive? Would you accept it if your child was mad at a sibling for stealing their toy and so they went and peed on their sibling's bed?  Because it seems to me that is essentially what you were doing. They did something you did not like, so instead of addressing the issue clearly and straightforwardly and coming up with a solution, you have decided to punish them by making their life as miserable as possible. Does that seem like it is going to make things better for anyone involved ?

To the OP:  I would maybe overlook this if your nanny had a very early start time and very long hours and was universally cheerful and kind to both your child and you the rest of the day.  But if she's she is too tired and grumpy to be kind to her charge before her 3rd cup of coffee, or if she is snippy with you in the afternoons as well, then either of those is a serious problem. Even if she is loving towards your child but is consistently rude to you,  that still impedes your ability to work together as a team caring for your child. If she is too burnt out on the job to have a positive working relationship, then that's going to make your child suffer. You need to be able to talk  to one another and have a genuine rapport. Your child will know if the two of you are barely civil and faking it.  Having two beloved caregivers hate each other is no easier on a child when it's mom and nanny than mom and dad.

As you have seen from this thread, it is apparent that the kind of nannies who behave this way often feel justified for some unrelated and arbitrary offense on your part. I think you should open the conversation by asking your nanny if there something that you have done to hurt or offend her.  Whatever the issue is, the first step is getting it out in the open. [/quote]

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