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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are setting a precedent for assuming responsibility for your nanny's personal life.  I would not volunteer to take her to church until she finds other arrangements.  You have already offered to help her to stream the services live at your house.  She can ask around at her church to see if she can catch a ride with someone.  Otherwise, she will need to spend the weekend with her family or pay for her own transportation to and from church.  Refrain from discussing the subject further.  Part of being a household employer is learning to establish boundaries.[/quote]

Op here- yes I wholeheartedly agree with this. However my husband who is a huge softie and has a hard time saying no feels as though we should accommodate her for a few weeks. Before we hired her we did inform her about the transportation situation. We are fairly close to a metro station so I've offered to take her there if she'd like to attend church in DC as she would be able to navigate easily. She has declined. Even though I was against it , my husband took her by the church yesterday to see if she could find a regular ride (church is on a Saturday ).  Unfortunately, she was unable to.

She's a friend of one if his relatives so I think he feels pressured to go above and beyond. She was well aware of the circumstances and we are paying her enough so she could take an uber to another church  if she chooses to. I'm trying my best to establish boundaries now as I know that this would set precedent for the future. He even wants to include her on all of our weekend outings trips. While this would be a nice thing to do I think we all need space and I'm not doing this. [/quote]

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