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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]BTW, 5 miles out of her way x 5 days a week is like $12.00.[/b] [/quote]
Yes, and that is almost $50 a month.  Would you be happy paying that out of pocket for your job?[/quote]

That's $12 for the IRS reimbursement rate. Unless she drives a very expensive car that only uses Premium fuel, her real costs are much lower.

But when I posted the bolded part above, it was actually aimed at the MD, suggesting that she just pay it.[/quote]

I think it is appropriate yet at the same time petty on her part to ask you for the mileage reimbursement if she is truly going only five miles R/T out of her way (and it's an easy drive without traffic), especially if you are paying her a generous wage.  I honestly could not employ someone like that because they would make my life more difficult and I hire people with the goal that they make my life easier.  It's not about the money, I would rather pay someone a higher wage than have to think about such a petty reimbursement and it sounds like that is what you think your situation is.

FYI a lot of jobs do not reimburse at the IRS rate so don't necessarily go off of that.  If she is being paid generously already, I would reimburse her at a rate that's between her fuel cost and the IRS rate and say that's mileage reimbursement.

I live in the NYC area and it is common though I would not say standard to provide PT nannies with some holiday and vacation benefits.  Whether yes or no and how much boil down to how much you value the nanny and want to retain her.   She doesn't work that many hours for you and you've mentioned she prefers housework so it sounds like she's not close to your kids either.  OTOH she has been with your family a long time.  Plus, she relies on the income you provide her, and even though it is not the majority of her income, $900+ monthly is nothing to sniff at.  I would offer her something, but not the full benefits that a FT nanny gets, so that you have room to expand the benefits for retention purposes in future years.  Such as you will pay her for up to two weeks when your family goes on vacation, but no more than that and not for her vacation.  I would also reimburse her for mileage.  That would be it for now.  And if you don't love this nanny (I'm not getting that vibe), maybe look into hiring a replacement?[/quote]

OP here, thanks!  This is very useful advice. I'm very flexible with her, she takes off multiple months to travel to her home country around the holidays, I help her with personal issues, and give her things for her grandson...not that she is asking me to pay her while she is on vacation (just when we are), but when she needs something I'm always there to help.  I've also overlooked long stretches of time when she would arrive up to 15 minutes late and never took anything out of her pay.  I guess that's what it is, I resent the nickel and diming UNLESS it's industry standard, and it sounds like I should pay her mileage but not necessarily vacations and holidays. [/quote]

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