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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op doesn't want to sleep train so the baby's exhausted when she gets home and she doesn't have to deal with him or her they just go to sleep. [/quote]

Sounds to me like a chronically overtired baby who wakes a lot at night and naps poorly.  OP doesn't want to sleep train because it makes her feel special when baby needs her all night, but nanny has to actually deal with the exhausted, miserable baby the next day.[/quote]

OR, more likely, when nanny says she wants to sleep train she wants to be allowed to CIO and OP is opposed to CIO which is her right as a parent. [/quote]
It's also the parent's "right" to hunt for a new nanny every couple of months. But perhaps the child should have a right to a stable caregiver.[/quote]

Not via child neglect. [/quote]

Sleep training does not equal CIO. There are gentle ways to make sure the baby get enough sleep during the day and at night and breaks the overtired habit.

Op: If you like the nanny why don't you have a veneration about your baby's sleep and what you think the needs are and hear your nanny out what she thinks the needs are. And then figure out how to get the baby good day sleep and good night sleep. The baby will be happier and easier to manage. And no cio is necessary. 6 months is a great age to start some sleep shaping and following cues and making sure he's not overly exhausted and he will sleep easier and better if you focus on that for a while. [/quote]

I agree. However, that is what most people mean. [/quote]

I agree with PP.  If a nanny said to me that she wanted to ST my child, bet you that she means some form of CIO.  Gentle / no-CIO ST is MUCH, MUCH MORE WORK and why would a nanny volunteer to put in that extra work when they are not getting paid for it?[/quote]

Maybe because the nanny actually cares about her charges and wants them to be healthy and happy?  What a shitty thing to say about nannies.  I am sure your low opinion is a self-fulfilling prophecy.[/quote]

PP at 15:03.  Not at all.  I'm not painting all nannies with the same brush, my kid's nanny actually couldn't handle ST and the tears involved so I had to do it mostly by myself.  The fact is that the vast majority of successful ST involves some CIO and conversely, gentle ST works but rarely.  A nanny who feels so at the end of her rope as to suggest ST more likely than not will want to take the route that is most likely to lead to success: CIO.  [/quote]

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