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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with this poster! I can't stand that dr Laura lady but she is SPOT ON when it comes to these working parents and not even raising their own children. Being a nanny has allowed me to nurture these poor children that would otherwise get dumped into a daycare center where they just get treated like robots and have to stick to routines and schedules that fit the needs of the school and teachers. There are some great centers and preschools out there but nothing can trump getting what you need at home. Having a nanny is the next best thing to having one of your actual parents home. If socialization is what you are after there are many ways to get this.

I am not coming down in moms either. I also advocate for dads that can stay home.

Can we imagine the difference there would be in  behavior and personality development? So many concerns and diagnoses are rooted in behavioral issues it sickens me. The behavioral issues are rooted in attention seeking because these kids now don't get it from the ones that created them in the first place. They are popped out then boom back to work and back to only seeing their parents at dinner and bed then a couple of days for the weekend. Do you parents really think this is adequate? I mean deep down do you really believe it? If you do, you should not have children. STOP having more children! It's ok to just be married.

When it comes to single parent it's different and I understand there needs to be an income. Nannies are too expensive some times in these situations. This is when I suggest living close to a relative that can help, or even living with family like grandma and grandpa to supplement for the absent parent. If it's not an option I think in come day cares with low ratios are the next best thing. It's more lenient the schedules are less stressful and they will come to see the provider as family.

But please let go of these material "needs" and standards of society. If you need to downsize your home, cars, vacations per year whatever it may be, DO IT. If it means going from $400000 year income household to $200000 or from $150,000 to $60,000 DO IT. One parent be there for your kids in their formative years. Be the one seeing those "firsts". Don't depend on watching a camera from your cell or texts and daily reports. Get back to your career part time after they go to school.

This industry has completely changed my views. I am defintely staying home when I start my own family I don't care if we have to have a tight budget. Nothing can substitute a parents attention and touch. No job is more important once you decide to become a parent. And if you think so you shouldn't be a parent. This is the pink elephant in the room that no one wants to mention so I know feathers will be ruffled. Mbs will be angry and say it's judgemental and become defensive. "You wouldn't have a job is we didn't work! Etc etc". I have degrees to work in other areas but I have my heartstrings pulled by these children that need someone their for them at home. No one will tell the truth[/quote]

You're unhinged.  And yes, you are overtly judgmental and you don't have any idea how most of the world lives.  Mostly though you're unhinged.[/quote]

Typical brainwashing of today that a person must be crazy if they think people that decide to have kids should actually see and spend more than 2/3 hours with them a day. No where did the pp say lose your identity or that it has to be the mom that doesn't work. But there is nothing unhinged at the notion an actual parent *gasps* be the one putting down their own kid for naptime or taking them to the playground. Most of the parents that do work don't even like their jobs but do it to keep a certain tax bracket attached to their names or have a certain lifestyle. Handing off your baby every day and not seeing them again until after rush hour traffic does have an effect on them whether people want to acknowledge it or not. It shouldn't even be legal for day care centers to accept 6 week old babies. Sometimes people have to do what hey have to do. But most of he parents here that can afford nannies and prestigious schools for 7 year olds can defintely afford for mom or dad to be there in the home with the child until kindergarten starts. Go out with friends on the weekends, work on hobbies and activities after bedtime. You don't have to lose yourself or identity just because you stop going to work for a few years to take care of something you created. Jeesh[/quote]

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