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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a WAHM with a FT nanny for our 11 month old daughter.  Because I'm home most of the time, I know it's easier for me to see and therefore be critical of the nanny compared to other working parents.  I try to take a step back and remember this and I managed to be quite happy with how the former nanny interacted with our daughter.  She sang and talked to her all the time and was always teaching her new things.  A new nanny just started with us and she is very sweet and playful and is always talking and playing with our baby.  But I have a few issues:

1. I find her communications to be really limited and repetitive.  For example, she sings the same three songs, "Twinkle Little Star," "Old MacDonald Had a Farm" and "Happy Birthday..." even though it's not my daughter's birthday!  I think she sings Happy Birthday because she doesn't know other songs.  Would it be all right for me to suggest to the nanny that she learn and sing other songs to my daughter?  Her verbal interactions are also limited.  I know it's hard to be varied communicating with a baby that doesn't talk back, it takes effort, but I do it and her former nanny did it, too.  Would it be okay for me to suggest that she try to find more things to say to my daughter so she's using a greater variety of words?  And how can I make the suggestion in a way that will help her work on this?  For example, make my suggestion less conceptual and more concrete.

2. When the nanny sings, she sometimes will play one of my daughter's play instruments, e.g., piano, but not the actual melody, just random keys.  It sounds terrible and it even makes her singing more off-key.  I know good music can benefit children, but maybe bad music can hurt them...?  I'm only half-joking, I do wonder if all that dissonant random cr*p she plays grates on my daughter, maybe subconsciously.  Goodness knows it grates on my nerves!  Not to mention it distracts me when I'm trying to work.  Would it be rude to tell the nanny that while it's okay for her to play the instrument a little to encourage my daughter to play, that she should not keep playing?  And that if she knows how to play melodies, she's welcome to, but not to play randomly?

I know I sound like a Type-A crazy mom and yes, I am!  I do try to be a nice employer, which is why I'm here to get advice from more reasonable people than myself![/quote]

Is this a serious post?[/quote]

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