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OP here. Thanks for your comments. Aside from this issue we LOVE our nanny but this has been bugging me for some time. She had DD say something to me in front of her and it was so awkward because I was caught completely off guard.  I just said something like "if we had the money I'd be happy to pay for her ticket but unfortunately we don't." [/quote]

PP here - fwiw, I could also see one of my kids just popping out with a comment about how we should buy our nanny a plane ticket without any prompting from the nanny.  Is there any chance that was the case?  My 4 year old especially has absolutely no concept of money and gets excited over a handful of pennies thinking she can now buy every toy she ever wanted.  She wants to give gifts to everyone, though thankfully it's usually a handmade card or drawing or a flower from our yard.
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OP here, I could see my kids doing that too but in this case I was standing right there when she prompted DD to tell me. She said "remember you were going to ask Mommy to buy me a plane ticket to go home."[/quote]

That's pretty weird. Is something wrong at home?

My in laws are from a different culture and they address hard topics in weird ways like this. [/quote]

As far as I know nothing is wrong and I do think she'd tell me if it was. We have a "part of the family" kind of relationship and she has told me when she's had things happen with her family. I'm honestly not sure if she was joking or serious but I take money seriously and didn't really appreciate the joke. That combined with the other comments makes me think she thinks we have more than we do. I forgot to mention earlier that she makes me really uncomfortable when she talks about money. She tells me every time she has to pay for something for her car or health and I honestly don't know if she's just saying it because she just wants to tell me when she's worried about it (which I don't mind) or because she's hoping I'll give her the money to pay for it (which I honestly would if I could but I can't).[/quote]

Yeah. I've had friends/employees like that before, who just felt comfortable putting themselves in a position of having their expenses paid for by others. Had a secretary until pretty recently who did it all the time. I don't know if it's like, a moral failing or anything, but I definitely don't like it.

My personal response has been to overshare in the other direction (ugh DH's car needs new tires, hope he can skate for a couple months while we save up!) but I get how not everyone would be comfortable with that solution.  [/quote]

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