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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not quite two year old twins is exhausting on top of what sounds like very busy jobs. Marriages often suffer significantly during those early years because parents don't spend enough one on one time together.

I suspect you are attributing all of the fussy/not great behavior to the aspects of their parenting you don't agree with, but never attribute their sweet/good behavior to the same parenting. You're likely seeing at least to some degree what you want to see.

By the way, when a kid asks for the parent not there, you could try saying where the parent is and that the parent lives the kid very much, and will give hugs and kisses when they get home. Telling a not quite two year old not to worry is probably not too helpful. Telling them their parent loves them gives them some nice assurance.

If this isn't a good fit for you, consider moving on. But also consider that these parents are probably doing the best they can to manage a lot that's going on around them. There is such a huge difference when caring for the kids is your one and only job, versus caring for the kids while also worrying about the upcoming trip and whether you've made the well child appointment and if the bills were paid and do I have enough of whatever from the store. There are days when in home with my kids and decide to make them my ONLY job for the day and ignore everything else about running my household and my life, and it feels like a different world.

Long way of saying - cut them some slack. Their kids will be fine. Help support their bond in whatever form it exists, and lay off the judgement. [/quote]

This is an awfully nice way of looking at things.  I have been a working mom for going on eight years now, but if I knew this couple IRL, I am pretty sure I would judge.  It sounds like they only see their kids a few hours a week.

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