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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I'm curious. Your post title makes is sound as though your MB is a single parent. Is that the case?  You also said "Ahh.. if I could change ONE thing, it would be for them to pick up after themselves more.." If she's not the only adult in the house, why would you place all the responsibility for tidiness on her?
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If the children aren't infants, there is no reason that they can't be helping to clean up.  I've worked for a single parent before, but the kids had chores.  It's not that the parent should clean everything, but she should definitely figure out how to have everything cleaned without leaving it for the nanny.[/quote]

OP here.

Yes, she is the single parent. 
The kids are 11 and 13 and never been taught to pick up after themselves.

I've been working with the kids on that and it has gotten better. When I'm there, they do (for the most part) what they are supposed to do. They often need reminders, but they will do it.
The problem is when I'm not there - they just drop everything wherever they feel like and MB never tells them to pick it up and put it away.
She is the main problem - out of all the things not put away, 80% is her stuff - whatever she bought the night before and didn't put away, dishes that didn't get washed, random things that she put on the kitchen island.. 
I organized kids' rooms and I make sure they stay clean. I remind the kids to make their beds and every other day I tell them to pick up a few things that are out of place, so it doesn't get to the point where it takes hours to clean it. 
MB's bedroom looks like a tornado went through it. It NEVER gets cleaned. Stuff on the floor, clean clothes all over the hampers that she never put away, "eaten" tissues and toilet paper under the bed because their 2 year old dog never got trained.. he chews on everything and pees and poops everywhere. He usually stays downstairs, but escapes sometimes.

To be clear, I don't care what my MB's bedroom looks like, however it became a problem a few times when she "lost" her things and then took mine and lost them as well.
A few examples - I have a few phone chargers. I keep 2 in my house, one in the car and one at work in the kitchen, always plugged in in the same place. We all have iPhones (me, MB and both kids) so we all use it as needed. One of the kids' chargers was there as well. MB took it, lost it, then took mine and when I asked her, she "found it" in her bedroom.
Another example - I got the kids cocoa butter (one jar for each) because their skin was really dry. They kept them in their rooms. One kid said he couldn't find it. We looked for it everywhere, until something told me to look in MB's bathroom. Yes, it was there.
Another example - I noticed her DS's hair still smelled like it wasn't washed after he took a shower. I asked him if he washed his hair. Turns out he didn't have shampoo, because his mom ran out of hers and took his. And he didn't say anything until I noticed about a week after.
Oh, another one - the boy left for school one day and I went upstairs to wake up the girl. MB was still upstairs getting ready for work. I made sure the girl was out of bed so she wasn't tempted to fall back asleep. 15 min later MB came downstairs, left for work and the girl was still upstairs. I went to check on her. Turns out, she told her mom that she didn't feel well and MB told her to go back to sleep.

I could honestly write a book about it.

The bottom line is that they are such good kids, they just haven't been taught to put things away and clean up after themselves.

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