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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mom of twins here, who also employs a nanny.

Your job is to manage this OP - this isn't a choice.  If you want any nanny to stay in the job you need to be sure you are clear in your direction, have the nanny's back when other people are in the house, and you ensure that what you and the nanny have worked out stays in effect.

Period.

Your twins absolutely must be on a schedule - for their health and eveyrone's sanity.  Cutting back on naps at this point is a bad idea.  Sleeping 12 hours at night is pretty unrealistic at this point - focus on getting 6-8 hours of continuous sleep for right now.

But have your nanny's back.  IMO you are breaking one of the critical rules here.  Would you want to work in the kind of environment your nanny is enduring?

Your mother is leaving, your nanny is not (hopefully). [/quote]

+1. OP, your post was hard to read.  I understand that you are going through an extreme situation, two demanding jobs, a 17 month old and 4 month old twins!!  just one child would be enough, three under 2 in this situation is hard. but the bottom line is that what your mother is doing is really bad to them, keeping them awake so they sleep at night? this border on abuse.  plus, I believe it may work a day or two but eventually the babies will sleep longer during the day because they simply need it. at that age a short nap (1-2 hours) and a longer nap (3 hours) in the afternoon are normal (and I talk as the mother of two kids, one who slept through most of the night from the beginning and one who basically never slept through one night until well past 2 years old).  it sounds like you have a good nanny and a mother who simply wants to assert her role instead of respecting yours and the nanny's.  if you need night help, hire a night nurse, just for a few months so you can sleep and your babies can have the sleep they need, not the one your mother decides they can have.  [/quote]

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