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[quote=nannydebsays][quote=Anonymous]We have had a nanny for two weeks and I am questioning her competence. I have asked her to help with get my 10 week old. We want her on a schedule, for her to drop the night feeds, wake up an hour later, and nap longer. My nanny has been helping with naps but refuses to get the baby on a strict routine. She also told us she can't help break the night feeds or early wake up because she isn't here, but did give suggestions that aren't helpful. I'm very annoyed and don't know how to handle this. [/quote]

OP, You need to address several things to ensure you can make your baby accept the schedule you prefer her to be on.

First, take her to the Pediatrician and ask if she is healthy enough/weighs enough to be sleep trained. If the answer is yes, then your next step is to determine how much formula/breat milk she needs during a 24 hour period (midnight to midnight). The general formula is 2 - 2.5 oz per pound of body weight, but follow the info your Dr. gives you.

Then, if you want to help baby learn to STTN, you work on dropping night feeds first, then on pushing back her morning wake time. You also need black out curtains and a sound machine.

The first thing you need to do is be willing to accept some crying. Babies cry to communicate, and if you are choosing to postpone meeting baby's needs in order to change her schedule, there will be crying. Some babies cry so hard they vomit. Choose when you expect your baby to wake up in the morning - let's say 7 am as an example.

Night feeds. Look at when baby wakes up to eat for about 1 week. You might see a pattern like feeding around midnight then again at 3:30. Push midnight feed back by 1/2 hour every 3 days or so. [b]Patient people often wait a week before making another change. [/b]In addition, push the early am feed back by 30 minute as well. Do this gradual shift until baby is waking only for one feed in the early AM.

Later wake up time. Push back the early am feed until baby is being given her bottle within 30 minutes after her acceptable wake time.

Nighttime schedule:

Baby in bed at 7pm after 6:30 feed. Wakes to feed at midnight and left to cry until 12:30 before feeding. Wakes to feed at 3:30 and left to cry until 4 before feeding - continue for a week.

Week 2, feed at 1 am and 4:30 am, regardless of when baby wakes and is hungry. If baby is left to cry from hunger for more than an hour, you will likely be cleaning up her vomit.

Week 3, feed at 1:30 and 5

Week 4, feed at 2 and 5:30

Week 5, feed at 2:30 and 6 - back in bed after 6am feed until 7, then feed at 7:30

Week 6, feed at 3 and 6:30 - back in bed until 7:30, skip that feed and feed by 9:30, then 1, then 4.

Week 7, feed at 3:30 and then get baby to start the day at 7, feed at 7:30, 10:30, 1:30, 4, and 6:30

Week 8, feed at 4

Week 9, feed at 4:30

Week 10, feed at 5

Week 11, feed at 5:30

Week 12, feed at 6

Week 13, feed at 6:30

Week 14, feed at 7:30

And that's how you make sure your baby does what you want and allows you to get the sleep you need. Of course, if you choose to hurry the solution, change times every 3 days and it will take just 6 weeks to make baby realize that she will not be responded to when she cries from hunger until YOU, the parent, choose to allow her to eat.

The other solutions are to hire a night nanny or NCS and let them do the night feeds, or to do some reading and realize that your baby is not a tiny doll who only has needs when you want to play with her. Parenting sucks on occasion, and newborn care is HARD. But that phase does end, and baby will STTN. Your choice is whether to force the issue and cope with baby wailing and vomiting, or to rise to the challenge and work to gently help your baby learn good sleep habits that will last her for a lifetime.

Good luck to your baby.

P.S. A 15 week old is [b]50% OLDER[/b] than your baby. That's like expecting a 4 year old and a 6 year old to be on the exact same developmental track. It's not going to happen.[/quote]

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