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[quote=D-ATX]Expecting table manners from a 13m.o is ridiculous. It's a given that children are messy and gross. In my opinion, if you like everything else about your nanny, I don't think this is a fireable offense - especially if she's not hiding it from you. Us nannies are human. We all come from different backgrounds where things that are acceptable in our childhoods, ideologies, cultures, etc. might not be a good fit for you; and thats OK! I do think that her method is inappropriate for the 13 m.o. I personally don't think any child should be punished or rewarded with anything involving their breakfast, lunch, dinner, or potty time. Nevertheless, she's not endangering your child's life. I think you and the nanny can talk this out and brainstorm. However, you have ultimate authority if she can't adjust.

In my experience, I have always used the "more", "all done" sign language. So if the child is doing things that do not involve eating, then I would ask, "Are you all done? *insert sign*" The kiddos pick up on it really quickly. When they're "done" you dismiss them from the table, but the option to return to the table and eat is still left open until everyone else is finished. At that point, if you think the 13m.o is short on calories, then you can reintroduce a bottle. My 2-year-old charge always followed his meals with a bottle of whole milk.

However, if she is indeed eating and is just messy, then leave her be. Everything is a learning experience, even blowing the raspberries. There's nothing wrong with starting to introduce table manners to practice, but it shouldn't be a punishable thing. Let kids be kids. You might not get to go out to a restaurant with your kiddos for a while, but I think that's a small price to pay. They'll have the rest of their lives to conform to social norms. [/quote]

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