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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"3. what is her motivation/need such that she needs to put her own kid in another person's care while she watches my kid?"

So, what is the motivation of the lawyer, doctor, manager, nurse, and every other mother who HIRES a nanny?  Because, you know, SHE is getting CHILD CARE while she WORKS. (the horror!)

Some reasons:
Nannies who are mothers may not have husbands who are independently wealthy so they may need to work. Just like some MBs.

Or nannies who are mothers may WANT to work for the same reasons that the MBs who are mothers do... because they like to continue their profession, they like to do something other than stay home with a child, blah blah.

Really!

OP:  I direct a childcare center, and I am NOT LEGALLY allowed to ask someone I'm interviewing whether she/he has children.  If she/he brings it up, I can go there. So DO NOT BRING IT UP.  Because some MBs will then worry about whether you can get there on time, will take too many days off, will whatever.  Just like the lawyers who are hiring female lawyers worry that they if they have children they will: be late, take days off for sick kids, etc.  So don't disclose.  And know that the MBs are not supposed to ask whether you have children. Just like when they interview for their high powered jobs, their hiring manager MAY NOT ask them if they are mothers, etc.  A friend of mine told me that when she was younger, she wouldn't wear her wedding band during job interviews, since the next assumption in her male dominated field was "oh, she's married and young, soon she'll be having babies and won't be a good employee anymore"

Of course, as the director of a chidlcare center, I worry that those employees who have children will take more days off, be late, leave early, etc because of their children's needs.  And so does every employer in America think about that.  Some employees do, some don't, but I don't get to ask.  And I don't get to discriminate against those who are parents.

Finally, people, don't assume that all family chiildcare is junky.  A high quality family childcare provider is providing small group, socializing care, with a high degree of attachment, longevity in the child-caregiver relationship, with a wide variety of activities (outdoor play, playdough, blccks, pretend play, manipulatives, music, reading, songs, stories, etc).  Sure, there are providers who plunk the kids in front of the tv.  There are childcare centers where this might be happening, too (although I have NEVER seen one, but whatever). And there might be nannies who are plunking the kids in front of TV.  And there are SAHP who have their kids watch hours of TV.  But there are so many highly qualified, professional people providing family childcare and I just hate when people assume it's the lowest form of childcare.[/quote]

OP here, thank you for that! You've answered my questions well. The home daycare he would go to is exactly as you described. I love it![/quote]

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