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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) Yes to what everyone else said. She apologized, she heard your concerns, move on.

2) Is it possible she doesn't approve of the way you're enforcing discipline? I ask because I know a lot (most) of nannies seriously fail at working with kids 2-16. No hate, I was a schoolteacher for a long time and learned a lot of tricks, but I get significantly better behavior from the kids then their other nanny. This is due to setting expectations ahead of time, talking slowly and quietly when they begin to get upset and remind them I will listen to them before I do anything, focus entirely on the positive behavior and only require a time out if they are hurting others on purpose, etc. I've actually never had to use a time out in the past four years, but I know all children are different. If you think she's unhappy with the systems in place ask her to sit down and talk about how to work together to improve your charge's behavior.[/quote]

OP here.  She does approve of the way I enforce discipline.  I was a school teacher for 10 years and have been a nanny for over 10.
Her son behaves perfectly for me when it's just he and I.  The moment his mother enters the room, he can't hold it together.  He has been a mess for 2 months because of this.
I know what I am doing.  I know how to get desired behavior from children.
I just need his mom to allow me to do that.
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Gotcha.

I still think if she continues interfering it would be worth saying, "Are you uncomfortable with the systems we agreed on? It seems like you intervene even when I'm following the established protocol and that's difficult for DS as well as me. I want to be sure we are on the same page and can agree to respect one another's authority when in charge. What could i do to make that easier for you?"

I mean, I had that conversation hundreds of times with parents, it's no different with MBs. If you're truly a professional with ten years of teaching experience (srsly? how old are you? how have you not figured this out yet?) then speak with the same confidence you'd have used with your principal or students' parents when they complain about homework rules, grading systems, in-room discipline, etc.
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