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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MB here.  I had several live in nannies growing up pretty much from birth until I went to college.  (I have younger siblings, and also as we got older, they were more general caregivers who were also responsible for an elderly grandparent who also lived with us.)  I also have wonderful, involved parents, and my relationship with them was never negatively impacted by having a nanny, even when my dad traveled for weeks at a time for work, which he did often when I was young.

Actually having had a number of nannies (and having grown up with my friends in the same situation) and knowing how things play out in the long term, I find many of the conversations on this board to be totally nuts. I probably had around ten nannies growing up - some who were with us for many years at a time, some who only lasted a few months. I am not scarred from having had multiple nannies, even when we parted ways with a few of them abruptly. I missed a few of them very much when they left but I was never heartbroken - the ones we as a family were closest too, we stayed in touch with.  There were a few I think my parents were pretty relieved to see go, and even though I missed them, even I at a young age could appreciate how much less tense our home was after their departures.  I am still very close to and have regular contact with some (one came to my wedding).  One we were all so close to, that my parents still provide occasional support if something is needed.

There were some periods where the nannies spent an inordinate number of hours with me and my siblings, but I never had any confusion as to who mom and dad were. I actually think my parents did an amazing job of raising me and my siblings, and of trying to give us the best possible life, which included choosing loving caretakers.

Also most of my nannies were not well educated and a few spoke barely any english. But most were warm, loving, kind people who I remember very fondly.  I still grew up playing lots of fun imaginative games, and did very well in school. My english was not negatively impacted, and I have a graduate degree and have gone on to have a pretty successful career, so I don't think their lack of education negatively impacted me. By contrast, I still remember some of the little kindnesses and loving things some of them did, so when looking for a nanny for my children, my priority was finding someone who would treat them with warmth, love, and kindness over someone well-educated.[/quote]

I feel so sorry for you, PP.  Your post is so defensive and so long trying to convince everyone one of how well you are doing and how happy you are having had and now hiring undocumented and non-English speaking nannies.  I am not being snarky or condescending.  I honestly feel bad for you.  [/quote]

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