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[quote=Anonymous]OP, will you be able to stay in touch with the nanny who's leaving?

My NF (we're great friends) had au-pairs since the youngest kids were 1 and 2.

Au-pair 1: stayed a year, left amicably enough, didn't truly keep in touch except for a few random visits several years later - altogether a positive experience.
Au-pair 2: stayed a year, then rented the basement apartment while she studied locally. Ended in disaster - the actual au-pair time was good, the rest awful. Didn't keep in touch.
Au-pair 3: stayed a year, fantastic experience, part of the family and all that. Stayed in touch, I visit them to this day and it's been over ten years ago.
Au-pair 4: left mid-year as she was homesick, but altogether good experience.
Nanny: stayed almost a year until she went to uni. Fantastic experience, stayed in touch, visit all the time, etc.
Au-pair 5: only stayed three months, wasn't a good fit. Didn't stay in touch, but not a negative experience.
Nanny: came to cover for a few months.
Au-pair 6: stayed a year, good experience at first but then it went downhill a bit. She later wrote a heartfelt apology to the kids and the family for the things that had gone wrong, came for a visit. Though they don't stay in touch other than on facebook, that really helped repair the bad taste that was left at the end of her time.
Nanny: came to cover for the summer months until the new au-pair's arrival.
Au-pair 7: mediocre relationship, the kids didn't really like her and didn't have an excellent relationship with the family. Left kind of badly but nothing scandalous. Didn't keep in touch.
Nanny: came to cover for the summer.

Now the kids are in full-time school so need to nannies or au-pairs, but altogether the whole thing has been very beneficial to them. They're curious and open, and because the nanny and I stayed in touch with them over so many years and are still very close friends, I can definitely tell that they haven't been harmed in any way. If anything the experience with the later apologised au-pair showed them that people grow and learn.

The family always made sure to talk about the new nannies coming in a positive key, getting the kids excited, remember the good things they did with all their nannies. They also always had at least a week of handover when both au-pairs were there, so the transition was as seamless as possible.

Don't worry about your child not attaching straight away, OP. It does take time, sometimes, but if you let the old nanny prepare her, give her time to adjust to the thought of someone new coming to play with her, it will be alright. It's much more harmful to not let the leaving nanny say goodbye to the kids, or talk about her very negatively in front of the kids.

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