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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will be honest here. It bugs me. Yeah I know its your right to do what you want while you're paying me and all, and it may not be logical, but yes this bothers me. Do it often enough and we will have some serious resentment between us. I think what really bothers me is that the only reason you have these extra vacation days to use for nonsense is because you've given me the least amount of vacation time you could get away with. To say that a nanny could use her time off in the same is disingenuous. Most of us get 2 weeks, one of which you tell us when to use it. 
So, OP, you can pull this a few times a year without doing serious damage to your relationship with your nanny, but make a habit of it, and it is basically rubbing your excessive vacation time in her face. [/quote]
That's because you interpret "excessive" as "more than I have".  That's not necessarily the case. Presumably you knew how much vacation time the job gave before you signed up. [/quote]

Look, I said my feelings may not be logical, but OP expressed concern that she will cause hard feelings by doing this. Anyone who is being honest with you is going to tell you that they do not enjoy having disparities rubbed in their face. So as I said, sure OP is well within her right to do this, and if it is occasional it probably won't be a big deal. However if she intends to make a habit of it, yes, her nanny isn't going to love it. That's just real honest human nature. [/quote]

I think you have a few levels of long built up resentment showing here.  You are assuming disparities, you know your feelings aren't logical, you are applying whatever your past disgruntlements are to everyone here, and inferring all sorts of unpleasant intent.

I get X number of vacation days.  You get X number of vacation days.  Both of us can spend those days however we choose.  Big trip, time w/ family, daily errands, sitting in bed eating Cheetos, whatever...

If you're cashing your check for being paid on those days, not being asked to suffer anything out of the ordinary, and not having your daily routine interfered with, then what your employer(s) are doing w/ the day shouldn't matter at all.[/quote]

I just tried to answer OPs question honestly. I would resent it after a while, and I think most people would if they're being honest. You can say what you want about facts and logic, but people are not logical. Your logic isn't going to do OP any good when her nanny catches an attitude every time she does this, or when her nanny quits one day and she is blindsided. "But the Internet people said *logically* everything would be fine!!!"[/quote]

FYI - In most office and career jobs you do need to GET APPROVAL for your vacation time off.  Your boss literally has to approve it and may not if too many people already put in for that week off, you are in the middle of a big project, or it is a busy time of year. 
So no, you don't go storming into your boss's office and demand a certain week off with no plan.  You can say you want to take this week off and you intend to, but if the paperwork is not signed you just look like an @$$. [/quote]

That's is not the same thing as saying half of your vacation will be when I tell you it is, then also claiming your employee has the freedom to use their vacation as they see fit. It's really quite ridiculous. [/quote]

Working with your employer to pick your vacation week is not ridiculous at all.  Acting like a prima donna and taking off at a bad time for your employer is ridiculous. 
In most cases, it all works out. But if you go in there demanding the week they are both on work travel, or the week the kids are home from school, or the week the new baby is due, all to save $20 on a flight or whatnot, you absolutely look ridiculous. [/quote]

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