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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We're they paying for the shadow days?[/quote]

Why would they? Nanny wants a job, MB needs to know nanny is a good worker and gets along with the kids. The only way to accomplish that is to see her work. If MB is shadowing the nanny she obviously isn't getting anything out of it (no childcare, no free time, etc.) so it's just an interview. If you are morally opposed to that then don't agree to come.[/quote]

Most, if not all, employers pay for shadow days.  [/quote]

Well luckily OP can go work for one of them. Oh oops, she can't. [/quote]

OP wrote that she didn't do shadow days -- not that she didn't do shadow days where she wasn't being paid for her time.

Any employer who doesn't pay for training in any field should be disregarded immediately.  [/quote]

OP here. I never said " I do not do shadow days". I said I am use to doing shadow days ( per family request) after the offer has been offered and accepted. Now I know not to pass on the shadow day, even if I don't get an offer first.

Yes, I do get paid shadow days. It wasn't like I completely shut it down. I just told them I don't do shadow days until there is some form off an offer on the table. In my defense, what if I turn down offers bcuz I accepted a shadow day, thinking it will lead to an offer. Then the offer doesn't come and I'm screwed. I explained this and the dad goes " I doubt you will be without a family or offers. You're so lovely!" [/quote]

If you preferred one of the earlier offers, then no reason to do the shadow day at all. If you literally were going to lose the other offers if you waited until after the shadow day with this family, but you liked this family the best, that's when you say you have other offers, blah, blah, blah. You don't refuse the shadow day out of principle unless it's going to negatively affect your prospects.[/quote]

This is exactly what I've already explained. I did like this family best but I had deadlines for other offers. If I agreed to the shadow/trial day, I would of had to turn down other offers. I think if I had no offers or more wiggle room, I would have done it. The biggest issue is they still were going to interview another candidate MB really liked. I could of agreed to a shadow day and turned down other offers, for them to have gone with the other candidate ( which is who they chose). I am looking out of my best interest. [/quote]

You lucked out. Looks like this family didn't like you anyways so be glad you didn't pass on any other offers.[/quote]

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