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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am flummoxed that you don't get why your nanny may not want to come in tomorrow and is on the fence about the rest of the week. She's looking for another job, and mourning the loss of this one. the fact you need this spelled out for you is pathetic.[/quote]

I'm flummoxed why she's not bright enough to realize she's jeopardizing a good reference and severance payment. Taking a "you can't fire me, I quit" attitude isn't particularly impressive.

I've had job transitions myself but did my searching in my spare time. I didn't quit showing up for work but expect to be paid for inconveniencing my employer. Nor did I expect my employer would say thank you if I bailed out on them without wrapping up expected work.

I expect her to be unhappy about the transition, but I also expected some degree of professionalism. This isn't a "we hate you, you're fired, now get back to work" situation, but rather a situation where I've tried to provide her the opportunity to make a more gradual (and compensated) leave-on-good-terms transition.

The new nanny is available to start immediately, but I intentionally deferred her start time to give current nanny a gentler wind-down. Personally I'd feel far more betrayed if my employer handed me my notice and a check and said don't come back as opposed to giving me a week to say goodbye and make sure I had my belongings, etc., plus another week of paid time after that. A check and an immediate goodbye would indicate no trust and probable ill will. That's not what we were going for, at all. [/quote]

And you chose not to inform her that you were looking for someone else, so she feels betrayed.  Geez, you hired her less than a year ago, most nannies don't accept a position thinking it's going to be that short, of course she was shocked and hurt!  Why in the world didn't you screen for language when you first hired.  At the very minimum, why didn't you tell her that you were looking to hire someone else due to language?[/quote]

I was looking for a regular tutor but instead came across someone looking for full time nanny work. I am well aware that immersion in language throughout your day is a far better way to learn than tutoring. We considered it and decided it was the best thing for our family. I told this all to our departing nanny (and she's aware we've long been searching for a good language resource for our son). It wasn't a case of setting out to hire a new nanny with this language. Rather, we stumbled across a really great "immersion nanny" opportunity that we couldn't pass up.

Terminated nanny has been with us for about 11.5 months so close to a year. We didn't hire and then drop her in short order. As for screening for language when hiring, we had certainly tried to find a nanny with this language in our earlier search but had no luck (not even anything close to luck).  We were thrilled to find this new candidate and didn't feel we could pass her up. [/quote]

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